Etiquette expert Anna Bey shares the warning signs to know your date is toxic

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An elegance coach has listed the warning signs that could indicate you’re dating someone toxic.

In a YouTube video, Anna Bey said it’s important to recognise if you’re dating a narcissist, if you’re being ‘love bombed’ or whether you find yourself trusting someone new too easily.

Ms Bey, from Geneva, Switzerland, shared examples of each warning sign by referring to ‘Tinder Swindler’ – a popular true crime Netflix documentary about an accused con man who entices women on dating apps for money.  

Ms Bey encouraged women to ‘be attentive’ and take note of someone’s actions and how they behave to understand their true intentions.

In order to understand if someone’s toxic, it’s important to educate yourself about different behavioural traits. 

Elegance coach Anna Bey (pictured) said it's important to recognise if you're dating a narcissist, if you're being 'love bombed' or whether you find yourself trusting someone new too easily

Elegance coach Anna Bey (pictured) said it’s important to recognise if you’re dating a narcissist, if you’re being ‘love bombed’ or whether you find yourself trusting someone new too easily 

Ms Bey shared examples of each warning sign by referring to 'Tinder Swindler' - a true crime Netflix documentary about an accused con man who entices women on dating apps for money

Ms Bey shared examples of each warning sign by referring to ‘Tinder Swindler’ – a true crime Netflix documentary about an accused con man who entices women on dating apps for money

You’re dating a narcissist, psychopath or sociopath

First, Ms Bey said everyone should be able to distinguish the difference between a narcissist, psychopath or a sociopath.

The Oxford Dictionary classifies a narcissist as a person who overly admired themselves, while a psychopath is a person who suffers from a mental disorder with violent social behaviour.

To compare, a sociopath is defined as a person with a personality disorder.

Ms Bey encouraged women to ‘do their research’ or speak to a professional about the three characteristics and how these people may act around others or when on dates. 

Ms Bey encouraged women to 'be attentive' and take note of someone's actions and how they behave to understand their true intentions

Ms Bey encouraged women to ‘be attentive’ and take note of someone’s actions and how they behave to understand their true intentions 

Are you the ‘perfect prey’ for manipulation?

In the documentary, several women are conned out of thousands of dollars by a man who appeared to be rich.

For this reason, Ms Bey asked to consider if you’re the ‘perfect prey’ to be manipulated by reflecting on your own behaviours – such as appearing desperate or trusting too easily. 

‘You might be confused as to why a warning sign is now all about you,’ she said in the video.

Ms Bey continued to say she believes con men ‘scout their victims’ and often target women who ‘trust easily’ or have a ‘form of desperation’.

She added that ‘desperation leads to danger’ of possibly compromising your own values, boundaries and start to dismiss the warning signs completely.

Love bombing is a term used to describe when someone showers you with attention, gifts or constant text messages in order to make you feel comfortable and let your guard down (stock image)

Love bombing is a term used to describe when someone showers you with attention, gifts or constant text messages in order to make you feel comfortable and let your guard down (stock image)

If they ‘love bomb’ you

‘Love bombing’ is a term used to describe when someone showers you with attention, gifts or constant text messages in order to make you feel comfortable and let your guard down.

But Ms Bey said to ‘be careful’ if this occurs, as it’s often used as a manipulation strategy.

‘It’s incredibly effective with women because we often dream of this attention and the whole commitment thing,’ she said.

Ms Bey said love bombing can be done through several different methods, such as showing someone with gifts, with words of praise or considering a future together.

Ms Bey said to 'be suspicious' if your date asks to borrow money from you, particularly if it's early in the relationship (stock image)

Ms Bey said to ‘be suspicious’ if your date asks to borrow money from you, particularly if it’s early in the relationship (stock image)

If they ask to borrow money from you

Ms Bey said to ‘be suspicious’ if your date asks to borrow money from you, particularly if it’s early in the relationship.

‘There will be genuine people who need real help, but you need to really evaluate the situation properly,’ she said.

‘If someone happens to ask you [for money], evaluate the relationship first and foremost, also look at their request being made – is it a weird ask or is it a normal ask?’

‘If someone is asking you to use your savings or to take loans, then you might be in for someone who is trying to con you.’

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