From personality traits to physical appearances, we all have a dating checklist in our heads. And that’s totally OK! Standards for a relationship help ensure your needs are met. But if your expectations become unrealistic, is the list actually helping you find your person?
We sat down with daters in Hong Kong to see what they think. Here’s what we found out.
What’s on your list?
Quick! Picture your perfect partner in your head – who do you see? Maybe a dark-haired hiking enthusiast. Or someone with strong eyebrows who loves the little things, like grocery shopping on Sundays.
If you have a clear image in your head, you’re not alone. The average dater in Hong Kong has a pretty long list for their future partners, coming in with over 20 must-haves and dealbreakers.
The daters’ responses revealed some not-so-surprising requirements. One in four Hong Kong daters makes their dating decisions based on someone’s occupation. And the little things are top of mind of a lot of daters, too, like fresh breath, gym selfies, and talking too loudly.
But added up, do all of these things really matter when it comes to finding something real?
Time to ditch the list
So, daters have a long list. But guess what else? We also found that 97% of Hong Kongers in relationships are with someone who’s different from what they were searching for.
Overall, one thing was clear at the end of the day. Across all demographics, Hong Kongers agreed that honesty, loyalty, and mutual respect are the most important qualities for a long and happy relationship.
So, remember: You’re totally allowed to have standards. We encourage you to, in fact! But it’s important to take a look at your dating list and determine what’s truly a dealbreaker, and what’s actually just a nice-to-have. And this is an ever-changing process because our wants and needs will change as we grow. As long as you’re honest with yourself and let go of little things holding you back, you’ll do great.
So, what do you think – ready to ditch your long list and find something real? With over 91% of CMB Daters looking for a serious relationship, you’ll be in good company at Coffee Meets Bagel. Download today to find your person.